By Michael Croke
Who Has Confidence?
Take a moment to think of someone you know who calls the shots and owns every room they’re in. I can guarantee you this person has confidence and excels partly because of the fact.
If you want to know how to be more confident, take a moment to study this person’s mannerisms; do they slouch? Do they slur their speech or jumble over words? If they’re confident, they probably don’t. Practicing similar qualities does not mean you are a copycat, either. Confidence is a noun and I promise no one owns the rights to that word.
Take Your Time When You Speak
There will be a time, like in a job interview, where you’ll be critiqued on your speech. You are not on a timer and people don’t usually base the value of what you say by how quickly you spit it out.
Be patient with yourself and allow the thoughts to come as they will. Take the time to articulate what you’re saying, and sound out the words carefully. You’ll find that you don’t sound slower, you sound smarter
I can not stress this enough: body language is something confident people speak fluently.
Take a look in the mirror and analyze your movements and the way you stand. Make sure your shoulders are over your hips and your ears are over your shoulders; imagine a string holding your body upright from the top of your head and let your body hang!
It doesn’t happen overnight, and it may be uncomfortable at first to fix your posture. Once you get the hang, it’ll be uncomfortable not to stand up straight. Being a confident person means you’re holding it together, so hold it together.
Dig Deep If You Have To
Finding confidence first starts internally, and sometimes it takes inward effort to reach your full potential. Self-doubt is what holds us back. You need to know that you are valuable and you are exceptional, because you are!
As a confident person, the world will open up to you, but you need to open up first. Focus on your good attributes and carry it with emphasis. After you’ve locked confidence down, the world is yours, friend.